Do I have your attention? I bet you have something in mind right now that you want to change in your spouse. Everyone begins their marriage with the idea that they married a near perfect person. But then the honeymoon is over and the blinders come off.
When you're dating it's easy to look your best, act your best, and then leave your date at the door and go home. But marriage gives you the opportunity to see a whole new side of your spouse -the irritating habits, the annoying flaws and sins. That's when you start to secretly Google "How to change my spouse." and come up with a 100 answers but no solutions. Jimmy Evans, a marriage expert said, "I have seen dramatic results in a large number of marriages when one spouse is willing to do the right thing first and then trust that marriage can be changed. For this to happen, first it is necessary to understand that the only thing you can change is yourself. And when you change, your marriage changes."
This is the best advice we can get for our marriage. Nagging, fighting, belittling, and stonewalling will not bring about the healthy change you desire. But when you decide to take personal responsibility and change yourself to become a better version of who God made you to be, then your marriage begins to change.
Truth to Ponder: Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
Discuss Together: Read the above quote by Jimmy Evans again and discuss what it means. Share with each other what you can individually work on to see change in your marriage.
Try This: Spend the next week encouraging each other rather than trying to change something you don't like.
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