After 36 years of marriage, Amy and I have discovered a secret about relationships. The best ones thrive on humility, and the worst ones are crushed by pride. You have two choices during a disagreement. You can humble yourself and seek to understand, or you can determine to be "the last man standing." If winning the argument is the goal at all costs, have you really won? We all want to be right. Admitting we are wrong is to vulnerable, so we take our stand and say, "It's my way or the highway." But what would happen if we humbled ourselves and chose to listen and try to understand the other point of view? What if we learned to slow down and truly listen to our spouse's desires, fears, worries, or frustrations. More on how to be a good listener in the next post.
Be free from pride-filled opinions, for they will only harm your cherished unity. Don’t allow self-promotion to hide in your hearts, but in authentic humility put others first and view others as more important than yourselves. Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests. Philippians 2:3-4 TPT
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